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Date: 6/1/2007
Time: 8:49:25 PM
Remote Name: 24.149.210.24
Hi. I'm 18 and I need help. My father went nuts about 5 months ago and was sent to a mental hospital. Before the incident, my father would constantly get angry and start to beat up my mother. And that's not just that. My mother has had a history of mental trauma twice, mainly due to my father's abuse, but recovered. Before all of this, my father would constantly blame others and throw things, and it was as early as I could remember. I think it all started when I was 7. My father started to yell at me just because I made a little fuss in the car. And my parents started to argue. You see, my father has had several histories on mental breakdowns and outbursts. And it seems that is was all stress-related, so my mother decided to work and my father's psychologist (at the time) told him to take a sabbitical from work to calm himself down. But instead, the situation worsened. My father claimed that he heard voices and has had constant nightmares. But that is not all. He never recovered. Just before he was sent to a mental hospital, he claimed that Zen Gods (my goodness!) ordered him to take me all the way to California (I live in Maine) and abandon me. He pulled me out the door with force, and I got scared. Good thing my mother was came home, and when my mother asked my father, she got shocked, and my father beat her up (not that severe, but it was still bad). Then my father claimed that George Washington's spirit came to him and instructed him to stalk my mother and treat her like...(okay let's just stop there), and my mother soon realized that my father has suddenly had a total break with reality. And then you know what happened. Now everything seems to be going on a downward spiral. My mother has to now be a single mother with 3 children. I have two younger brothers, aged 14 and 8, and I am a high school senior and I will be in college after the summer. My mother constantly cries and cannot seem to smile anymore. But I understand. And my youngest brother says "Mom, what happened to Dad?", and my mother just shuts down. Good thing that my mother has a Master's Degree and has a job that pays well, but with all the burden of being a single mother with 3 children is going to be tough. Now my family is starting to become dysfunctional. My middle brother's grades are falling, and my youngest brother is suddenly lonely, as opposed to before when he would have 5 friends over at our house every Friday night. My mother, on the other hand, says that her boss has threaten to fire her if she does not get back on task. But that is my mother's business. The thing is that my mother does not have a family to go to. She is an only child, my grandmother (her mother) is dying, and my grandfather (her father) has been deceased since I was 15. My father's side of the family now hates us and says that we betrayed them. My father's family is nuts as well. My grandfather on my father's side killed himself, and my father's two siblings (an older and a younger sister) are no better. My aunt (my father's younger sister) is also nuts and in a mental hospital, and my other aunt has anger issues and has a history of anger management thearpy (she even beat up my mother as well). My mother would wake up at night gasping for air, and I could not sleep anymore. I would just lie awake in bed. I cannot get into too much detail here because it is quite confidential, but I can tell you this; my family is falling apart. How do I deal with this?